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男朋友找我分摊房租,心里很不舒服

楼主:红客泠风 时间:2015-04-13 09:05:53 点击:260 回复:1
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  和男友都是大一留学党。第一年我在学校宿舍住,他在校外租了公寓。我的宿舍只能到第一学年末,最近我和我一女性朋友(同住一个宿舍)是在打算找下一学年的住宿。我本计划暑假回国,但因为前阵子临时决定暑假留下来读暑期班,所以我要重新开始计划,比如我的暑期住宿等等。我的朋友本来就打算留下,期间会住在她男朋友家,就没办法和我一起出去租房子,所以我得自己搞定。


  


  男朋友之前就经常在我和朋友讨论到住房问题的时候提出让我和他一起合住。其实平时也经常会去他家住一两个晚上,圣诞假的时候因为宿舍没热水我也有住在他那里一段时间。他有一个室友住次卧,他的意思是我如果和他合住就和他一起share主卧,就类似于我们要正式开始同居。我本来有点不愿意,觉得这么快正式同居不好,也不好和我爸妈说。而且我住的是他的房间,同一张床。平日里去他家最烦的一点就是他特别邋遢,垃圾满屋子乱扔,碗也累放在那儿不洗,脏衣服扔地上等等,我也经常要帮他收拾东西打扫屋子。就种种心理让我拒绝过他几次。。但当时临时决定暑假不回国的时候,第一反应是找房子会不会来得及,来不及怎么办,再加上最近家里经济情况不太好,也不想因为这样多一大笔开销。当时他在我身边我就立刻问他可不可以住他那里。

  就是从这里事情变得好别扭。。

  首先当时因为临时改计划我有点慌张,就赶紧想要去找他帮忙。可是他眼见我心急跟他说帮忙的时候,居然开起我玩笑来,说什么我之前总拒绝他,现在怎么愿意放下身价跟他住了(天蝎座的报复心理。。我真的是受够了。。),还说什么如果要跟他住也行,之后家务都得我做,帮他洗袜子洗内裤洗碗做饭,甚至还说什么身体偿还等等。。虽然知道他是开玩笑,当时听得我心里真的很不舒服。但我也没怎么说出来。

  第二天我和他在宿舍里聊天时他突然就说了句,暑假和他住的话,住宿伙食我们均摊吧。我当时就愣了下,问他说真的吗,多少钱。他就说各种AA的价格,算一下大概和出去住比就便宜个两百块吧。我就微信问我朋友她暑假和她男朋友住是怎么分开销的。我朋友当时蛮震惊的说她男朋友压根就没跟她提要分摊钱,更别说是直接向她要房费了。。
  况且有一个很大的前提是,我男朋友早就和房东签好一年的合同,也已经付过一年房租了,我去不去住他都是一个月交1400,所以如果他向我拿房租,钱是交给他的。我和我朋友震惊在于,为什么这样的情况下,他会向我要钱,完全就等于是要给自己进账。。

  说这么多,真的是好无语。我最别扭的点是我觉得,我愿不愿意付,和他愿不愿意为我付,是两码子事。他这样跟我提,我都不知道他在想什么。。。他这么说下来,那我宁愿给外人付房租,不想和他租在一起了。

  晚上吃饭的时候跟他提了这件事,他开始生气,说我矫情又事儿逼,他只是觉得都是出来住,生活费均摊是很正常的事情,也跟他和房东签多久合同没关系。还说他想帮我省了找房子的麻烦反而我还怪他。当时在饭店里被他大声凶了几句我真的好难受,突然觉得我有困难都没法找他。自己一个人在这个陌生的地方,以为和他在一起能安心,当时爸妈问我说暑假不回国的话计划好了没有的时候我想到的都是反正他在,可是现在觉得完全不是那么一回事了。


  昨晚之后我就马上各种在朋友圈联系人问有没有房子可以外租,现在也找到了两家合适的备选。事情其实可以在这里结束了。
  但我还是跑来发帖,想问问大家。。是我太玻璃心吗?说这么多只是想把事情细节描述清楚,能耐心看完的我很感激。。可不可以帮忙分析一下情况呢?
  我也不怕挨骂,如果是我太矫情、我的错请大家都骂醒我,但是如果是他的问题,今后我该怎么处理这些类似的问题呢?

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作者 :请给我一对翅膀 时间:2016-08-21 04:13:50
  你跟他说要分摊房租,你就回学校住得了。房租他自然会自己出

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